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Dilemma between parents and children<\/strong><\/p>\n She immigrated to Canada when she was a child, and later returned to Hong Kong alone to work, and she has been separated from her parents. In recent years, her parents have grown old, and she has been hesitant to move back to Canada to accompany her parents. After all, the best gift we can give our aging parents is companionship, right?<\/p>\n However, my job is an iron rice bowl with good salary and standard food. Once I resign, not only will there be no income, but also a considerable pension, how will I eat after that?<\/p>\n What's more, my son, who is just in adolescence, will go abroad to study in two years, and I really want to cherish the remaining parent-child time. My husband's job is also in Hong Kong, so if I leave alone, don't I have to separate the two places?<\/p>\n go or not? When are you leaving? How about waiting for my son to go to college and leave during the empty nest period? Or earn a few more years, and the couple will concentrate on serving the elders abroad after they retire? However, time waits for no one. At that time, I am afraid that the tree will be quiet and the wind will not stop...<\/p>\n On this day, she confided to me the struggles of these years in one breath, and I also felt the pressure she had been bored in her heart for a long time. "How long have you been thinking about this question?" I asked. "Maybe two or three years," she said. "The most struggling thing is...?" "I'm afraid of making the wrong decision." "Well, what would be the right decision for you?" "It's a solution that has the best of both worlds!"<\/p>\n Do nothing at all<\/strong><\/p>\n The "best of both worlds" in her mouth is that she does not have to give up her job, and does not have to be separated from her husband and son, while being able to accompany her parents for a long time. If there was such a possibility, it would have been implemented long ago. But the reality is cruel, nothing is nothing.<\/p>\n There is no perfect plan, so without action, without action, the situation will only get farther and farther away from perfection. Many Clients "Loop died" in this vicious circle.<\/p>\n "What is the most important yardstick for you when making a decision in an imperfect situation?"<\/p>\n She was stunned: "What does this question mean?" I tried to give an example: "For example, some people think that "ease of implementation" is the most important consideration when deciding on a matter. Others think that "mitigating harm" for the current situation is The most important thing. There are also some people who pay more attention to "personal preference", "efficiency", "sense of security" and so on."<\/p>\n "What about you? If you want to rank all the criteria, what is the number one for you?" She hesitated for a while: "This question is a bit difficult. Let me think about it and answer you again?"<\/p>\n If so, after several coaching sessions, it was like peeling an onion each time, allowing her to peel off the complicated emotions layer by layer. Until one time, she said, "I thought of it!"<\/p>\n